In choosing a book to
read and review I wanted to find one that could really be beneficial. I found a
book called Parenting the Strong-Willed
Child by Rex Forehand PhD and Nicholas Long PhD. I thought I might be able
to relate to the book because I consider by daughter to be strong willed. I had
the third eddition which starts with information on studies the authors have
done and studies that have been done on the program. I found one such study
that was done with the authors as well as four others that indicated that if
parents actually read the book, children’s behavior would improve even to
normal behavioral levels and that these changes would last (Forehand et al.,
2011).
One of the things I
liked about this book is it gives information to parents to guide them if their
children need additional help. It talks about ADHD in a way that I found I
could trust what was being said. A study done in Canada showed that younger
children in a class are 70-95% more likely to be diagnosed with ADHD than older
children in the class (Morrow et al, 2012). The book, Parenting the Strong-Willed Child, talks about how some behaviors
that may seem like your child has a hyperactivity disorder such as ADHD may
just be normal age behaviors and because of that it is difficult to diagnose
preschool aged children.
I really liked how the
book was organized and it was an easy read. It is divided into four different sections
that help so you can later refer back when needed. The first part gives a
background and an explanation of what a strong-willed child is. This part
helped me trust the authors and I appreciated that they did not blame the
parents for all of the behavioral problems their children have. It is difficult
enough to be a parent without constantly feeling like you are doing everything
wrong.
The next section
discussed the five-week program. The program does not just tell you what to do
or not to do, but it explains the why behind it. The program helps parents
focus on the positive behaviors providing the attention children often crave, and
also gives tools to discipline the child in a consistent way when necessary. I
believe children need positive interactions but also need to be told when they
are doing something wrong and be corrected.
The third section is
one of my favorites because it helps a parent look at their family culture and
atmosphere to see if positive changes can be made. I find it difficult to
notice behaviors that have become a natural part of my everyday life unless I
have something that helps guide me on where I can improve. One of the things it
mentions is a topic in one of my past blogs, cutting TV time and increasing
reading time.
The last section is for
those different scenarios where you find yourself butting heads with your child
such as meal time, bed time, or having another child join your family.
Sometimes remembering how your child views the world is all you need to work on
behavioral problems.
If you have ever found
yourself wondering where your child got some of that stubbornness and not quite
sure how to deal with it, I suggest you read this book. Parents who are really
struggling or parents who want to improve their parenting skills should read
this book and apply what they learn.
Forehand,
R. L., Merchant, M.J., Parent, J., Long, N., Linnea, K., Baer, J. (2011).
Behavior Modification: An
examination of a
Group curriculum for Parents of Young Children With Disruptive
Behavior. Sage, 35, 234-251.
doi:10.1177/0145445510393731
Morrow,
R. L., Garland, E. J., Wright, J. M., Maclure, M., Taylor, S. Dormuth, C. (2012). Influence of Relative
Age on
Diagnosis and Treatment of Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder in
Children. Canadian Medical Association
Journal, 184(7). doi:10.1503/cmaj.111619